Once you've said yes, the next most logical decision to make is "When?" There are many considerations for you as you think of what works for your personal schedules, for family and friends traveling, busiest days of the year for your vendors, sporting events, and hey? Even the alignment of the stars, sun and moon if you're wanting to get married outside at night.
Planning your wedding for a long holiday weekend may sound like a good idea. Traveling guests have time off from work. You can visit with family and friends longer before everyone disburses to return home. Reality? Some hotels and venues are booked far in advance on holiday weekends. Caterers may be busy with non-wedding related orders. Florists, for instance, can be incredibly busy on either side of Valentine's Day, Mother's Day, Memorial Day, Labor Day and Christmas.
Here are a few of the big days in 2018 and 2019 to consider. Thank you to www.weddingwire.com for this list.
New Year’s Day: Monday, January 1, 2018; Tuesday, January 1, 2019
Martin Luther King Jr. Day: Monday, January 15, 2018; Monday, January 21, 2019
Super Bowl Sunday: Sunday, February 4, 2018 (especially in Minneapolis, Minn.); Sunday, February 3, 2019 (especially in Atlanta, Ga.)
Valentine’s Day: Wednesday, February 14, 2018; Thursday, February 14, 2019
Presidents’ Day: Monday, February 19, 2018; Monday, February 18, 2019
Academy Awards: Sunday, March 4, 2018; Sunday, February 24, 2019 (especially in Los Angeles)
April Fool’s Day: Sunday, April 1, 2018; Monday, April 1, 2019
Final Four: Saturday, March 31 and Monday, April 2, 2018 (especially in San Antonio, Texas); Saturday, April 6 and Monday, April 8, 2019 (especially in Minneapolis, Minn.)
Palm Sunday: Sunday, March 25, 2018; Sunday April 14, 2019
Passover: Friday, March 30, 2018 through Saturday, April 7, 2018; Friday, April 19 through Saturday, April 27, 2019
Easter: Sunday, April 1, 2018; Sunday, April 21, 2019
Mother’s Day: Sunday, May 13, 2018; Sunday, May 12, 2019
Memorial Day: Monday, May 28, 2018; Monday, May 27, 2019
Father’s Day: Sunday, June 17, 2018; Sunday, June 16, 2019
Fourth of July: Wednesday, July 4, 2018; Thursday, July 4, 2019
Labor Day: Monday, September 3, 2018; Monday, September 2, 2019
Rosh Hashanah: Sunday, September 9, 2018 through Tuesday, September 11, 2018; Sunday, September 29 through Tuesday, October 1, 2019
Yom Kippur: Tuesday, September 18, 2018 through Wednesday, September 19, 2018; Tuesday, October 8 through Wednesday, October 9, 2019
Columbus Day: Monday, October 8, 2018; Monday, October 14, 2019
Halloween: Wednesday, October 31, 2018; Thursday, October 31, 2019
Veterans Day: Sunday, November 11, 2018; Monday, November 11, 2019
Thanksgiving: Thursday, November 22, 2018; Thursday, November 28, 2019
Christmas: Tuesday, December 25, 2018; Wednesday, December 25, 2019
Kwanzaa: Wednesday, December 26, 2018 through Tuesday, January 1, 2018; Thursday, December 26, 2019 through Wednesday, January 1, 2020
New Year’s Eve: Monday, December 31, 2018; Tuesday, December 31, 2019
Of course, if you're superstitious, you may wan to add Friday the 13th to your list of no-no's: Friday, April 13, 2018; Friday, July 13, 2018; Friday, September 13, 2019; Friday, December 13, 2019.
Bridal fairs are a lot of fun! Walking around, trying lots of food, getting your hair done, and listening to great music with your sweetheart is a wonderful way to spend an afternoon! But then reality sets in.
When you said yes, I'd bet you had no idea how many decisions were going to need to be made, how many people in your life have opinions about how you're supposed to do things, and how expensive it all is. Right?
Well don't lose hope. I listened to my brides, saw the "deer in the headlights" looks in their eyes, and put my thinking cap on. I approached an event planner (Kim Louise Designs LLC), and we've created a new experience for couples in the Eau Claire area to actually help you PLAN your Dream Day. It's called the Our Day Workshop, and it's being held on Sunday, April 29th here in Eau Claire.
On that day, we will be limiting the number of attendees to assure specific questions are answered and you have the ability to work with experts to talk about catering, music, budgeting, photography, officiating options, and so much more. Whether your dream day is a destination wedding, in a park, your backyard or a formal venue, there will be help for everyone planning their Big Day.
Yes, there will be food, hourly giveaways and a Grand Prize well worth over $5,000 and growing! We are so excited about being able to offer this event, and hope you are too. Want more information? Check out the website we've set up that also lists speakers, sponsors, and will continue to grow as the date gets closer. Can't wait that long? Send us a question for our experts and we'll answer it now.
As I mentioned, there is limited seating, so advanced registration is required on the website. Tickets are $29 per person until April 1st, at which the price goes up to $35. Don't wait! Register now at www.OurDayWorkshop.com. See you there!
Visit me at the Metropolis Resort Wedding Fair this afternoon!
At my booth I'm giving away a seat at the upcoming Our Day Workshop (April 29th) where attendees can listen to and ask questions of experts to plan their special day, regardless of where or how they want to do it.
I hear rumors of food, hourly giveaways, a dance demonstration and a HUUUUGE Grand Prize Giveaway at THAT event! www.ourdayworkshop.com
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"EVERYBODY has a unity candle ceremony. I want something different!" I hear this often, and YES. There are options!
If you're getting married outside, you may especially want to avoid a unity candle ceremony as attempting to light a candle and keep it lit can be very difficult with the slightest of breezes. Would you consider it a bad omen if your unity candle blew out right after you lit it? Or it refuses to stay lit after lighting it several times?
If you really want a unity candle outdoors, there are ways you can try to trick Mother Nature. You can place the candle inside a hurricane lamp, but then lowering a taper down into it can burn your fingers or set a sleeve on fire.
You can use flameless candles, but how romantic is it to reach over and turn the battery-operated switch on?
Sand. Yes, there are many who use colored sand and each member of the family pours their sand into the center container. It's certainly an option, and one that many use in place of a unity candle. Make sure to seal it with silicone shortly after the ceremony to avoid the accidental spillage if it gets knocked over.
Here's how I approach it. Share with me the things that you and your sweetie have in common, and I can create a unity ceremony from just about anything. Do you love wine? I can create a wine ceremony. Have a passion for fishing? Boating? Coffee? Cooking? I've got you covered in all those as well. You can truly create a unity ceremony around anything, if you're creative enough.
Your ceremony should be a direct reflection of you, your love and what you believe. Not something out of a book that someone bought online or was written hundreds of years ago. This is YOUR day, YOUR love, and YOUR life. Celebrate it YOUR way.
Your wedding officiant has asked you if there's a special reading you'd like to have in your ceremony, and you draw a blank. What's a reading? Do I need one? Where do I find one? Can I have more than one? Am I going to have to memorize it and say it myself? Why are there so many decisions to make when planning a ceremony????
No worries! That's what I'm here for! A reading is a way to add personality into a ceremony. It doesn't have to be a passage from the Bible, Quran or Bhagavad Gita, although it can be if you'd like. You can choose to do something other than the usual "Love is patient. Love is kind" passage, even if you decide to do a reading from the Bible.
If you're looking at a more traditional ceremony, you might choose something from sacred texts. There are many passages in the Bible that work well beside 1 Corinthians 13:4-7.
You can choose a favorite poem. You can choose the lyrics from a song that means something special to the two of you. Perhaps there's a favorite bit of dialogue in movie you'd like to quote. There are also ethnic marriage blessings that make wonderful readings, such as the Apache marriage blessing. You can Google 'wedding readings' and there is a world of information available. I have a wide selection available for my couples as well.
Who reads the reading? Anyone you'd like to have read it, assuming they're willing to do so. I can be a family member, friend, or you can have your officiant read it. No need to have it memorized - no one expects that. A piece of paper or note card is great.
One or two readings is all you need. If your officiant is writing your ceremony for you, your personality and love will come through many other parts of your ceremony as well, such as a unity tradition, handfasting, rose tradition and more.
This week I agreed to deliver the Christmas Eve (12/24/17) message at Unity Christ Center in Eau Claire, Wisconsin. The service will start at 4:30 p.m. More information will follow as it becomes available.
This Sunday, October 22nd at 10:00 a.m. I will be speaking at Unity Christ Center, located at 1808 Folsom Street here in Eau Claire. My topic will be an interfaith all-inclusive message, followed by a short meditation. All are welcome to attend. Please feel free to like and share this post.
This magazine is published twice a year for brides in the Chippewa Valley area. It includes lots of helpful hints, ideas, vendor advertisements and a detailed workbook to help you plan one of the most important days of your life. Included is an article written by Rev. Ronnie Roll on how to choose your wedding officiant. See page 25.
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There is no "i" in Love, but there is in Divorce. When working with individuals and couples in marital strife, one often hears "I need..." or "I want..." Following that is usually "He/she just doesn't get it/me."
If one remembers back to when they first fell in love, the pronouns used looked very different, and the focus of them was also different.
Love is a verb that requires one to give, and has little to do with getting. Regardless of whether the feelings are returned, love stands on its own two feet. We love babies before the child can love us. We love our pets, our work, our hobbies and more, without them loving us back, and that's ok. How often we forget this when we draw lines in the sand with our partners. The expectation becomes one of getting what we want or need, and if the other doesn't give it, they don't love us, or don't love us enough.
Marriage creates a third entity between two people that requires regular nurturing. It, above the two individuals (except in the case of abuse), should become the priority. By strengthening and protecting it, the individuals have the foundation from which they can grow, experience, learn and develop as a couple and individually. It provides the strength to be vulnerable as individuals, which deepens the bond of intimacy between the two.
Talking differently to our partner about our needs, wants and desires can mean the difference between drawing those lines in the sand and inviting them to help find creative solutions. The focus is on nurturing the relationship in a healthy way rather than getting what we want. Using words such as "How can we..." and "Share with me.." can go a long way to finding creative solutions that work for both.
Consider what you can GIVE, as opposed to what you may/may not be GETTING.
Working with a professionally trained minister, mediator or counselor to learn new ways to communicate can be a wonderful strength to add to your relationships, personally and professionally. Doing so before you're in dire circumstances will prevent deep wounds that may take a long time to repair.
There was a time when a man and woman came together, got married, and stayed together until death parted them. Life has changed, and our beliefs about what constitutes a commitment, family, and more have changed. So have our desires for how to mark the important milestones in our lives.
Blended families are becoming more and more prevalent. With this, comes a desire to commemorate the joining together, and even to go one step further, to spiritually bless the new family unit. During a wedding, commitment ceremony, or just a straight blending the family ceremony, a ribbon can be passed from member to member, each holding onto it and passing it to another member. Multiple colored ribbons can be used to make it more picturesque. A favorite poem or words from a minister or parents can be said. Afterward, the ribbon can be given a prominent place in the home to signify the new family, or each member can be given a piece of the ribbon on a necklace, bracelet, etc., that they can carry or wear to remind them they are loved and family.
Ceremonies for joining families together can be deeply meaningful and very personalized, and not just during a wedding. A family choosing to be baptized together, or an adoption ceremony can be very moving and make a world of difference to bring a family even closer.
For more ideas on how to bring your family closer together, please contact me.
Rev. Ronnie was ordained in 2010 as an interfaith minister through The New Seminary, located in New York City. She is available to perform ceremonies throughout the United States, aboard ship or in other countries.