MARRIAGE ISN'T A DESTINATION. IT'S A JOURNEY.
On the day you said "I Do" you didn't say "I Did." You entered into an active contract with your partner that continues far beyond one special day in your lives. You promised your sweetheart that you would be by their side for one of the most amazing, fulfilling, and intimate journeys you'll ever experience. Marriage.
What does it take to have a happy marriage? Work. Attention. Learning new skills. Forgiveness. Sometimes a neutral third party to help navigate the mine fields that can cause conversations to explode and do irreparable harm.
Frequently I see a young couple so focused on planning their event that they seem to have forgotten the reason why they're planning it in the first place.
Other times I witness a couple that has lost the spark they had - the 'why' behind their lives together. They seem to be going through the motions of daily life; fulfilling the roles of parent, spouse, income generator, babysitter, etc., and can't relate to each other as lovers any longer.
I have spent years talking with people who have been married for more than 25 years, asking them what they believe has been the key to their success, and I have learned there are key components to recreating those moments you see, when they look at each other with stars still in their eyes.
I've also invested a lot of time and energy in studying family dynamics, family social sciences, research coming from the John Gottman Institute, Dr. Gary Chapman, and other experts in the field of relationships, forgiveness and intimacy.
Relationships take work, and that spark. However you wish to define it - lust, limerence, the tingles - ebbs and flows with time, stress, changes and so much more. With a little practice and regular attention, it can remain strong for many years to come! Want it back? No worries! It can be done. Relationship enrichment is an art that can be learned - it's not luck or magic, although it can feel like it.
Contact me if you'd like to:
I offer:
What does it take to have a happy marriage? Work. Attention. Learning new skills. Forgiveness. Sometimes a neutral third party to help navigate the mine fields that can cause conversations to explode and do irreparable harm.
Frequently I see a young couple so focused on planning their event that they seem to have forgotten the reason why they're planning it in the first place.
Other times I witness a couple that has lost the spark they had - the 'why' behind their lives together. They seem to be going through the motions of daily life; fulfilling the roles of parent, spouse, income generator, babysitter, etc., and can't relate to each other as lovers any longer.
I have spent years talking with people who have been married for more than 25 years, asking them what they believe has been the key to their success, and I have learned there are key components to recreating those moments you see, when they look at each other with stars still in their eyes.
I've also invested a lot of time and energy in studying family dynamics, family social sciences, research coming from the John Gottman Institute, Dr. Gary Chapman, and other experts in the field of relationships, forgiveness and intimacy.
Relationships take work, and that spark. However you wish to define it - lust, limerence, the tingles - ebbs and flows with time, stress, changes and so much more. With a little practice and regular attention, it can remain strong for many years to come! Want it back? No worries! It can be done. Relationship enrichment is an art that can be learned - it's not luck or magic, although it can feel like it.
Contact me if you'd like to:
- Reconnect, rejuvenate and renew that spark with your sweetheart
- Work through a difficult conversation that needs to be had in order to move forward
- Talk with each other the way you did when you were first dating
- Talk about each other with friends the way you used to do
- Learn to forgive each other
- Learn to re-frame differences you have so they become strengths rather than weaknesses
- Fall in love all over again, every day!
I offer:
- Premarital education
- Marital success education
- Relationship Check-Ups
- Couples coaching
- Mediation
Relationship Check-Ups.
The Gottman Institute, the premiere relationship institute in the world, has done the research that proves that a healthy relationship is responsible for:
Relationship checkups are especially important for couples that may have chosen to forego any type of premarital education that addressed things such as:
Each partner completes a questionnaire, returns it to Rev. Ronnie and then the couple schedules a 90 minute get together during which we talk about their dreams, where they are and where they want to be. Then we put together a plan to make it happen.
- Greater Health
- Greater Wealth
- Greater Resilience
- Faster Recovery from Illness
- Greater Longevity (an average of 15 years longer for couples!)
- More Successful Children
Relationship checkups are especially important for couples that may have chosen to forego any type of premarital education that addressed things such as:
- Designing your marital plan
- Talking about expectations, goal setting and how to move through the ebbs and flows of physical attraction, growing together and more
- How to prevent conflict, move through it quickly when it happens, and how to forgive/move forward after conflict/betrayal and more
- And for couples who want to keep their relationship healthy, happy and hot for many years to come
Each partner completes a questionnaire, returns it to Rev. Ronnie and then the couple schedules a 90 minute get together during which we talk about their dreams, where they are and where they want to be. Then we put together a plan to make it happen.