You're Married. Now What?
You've just invested two years of your life planning the biggest party of your life. Everyone has been trying to tell you how to do this, and it's been very stressful. Finally, the day arrives and you can now relax. You both said I Do, so now it's done. You're married forever. Right?
Wrong. Hollywood and Disney give us this image that our wedding day is when our happily ever after begins. Once we walk back down that aisle, we can just sit back and let the years happily roll by. We are given images of a young couple standing on a mountainside, kissing, with the sun setting in the background as they begin to roll credits. Life doesn't work quite like that. So now what do you do?
That depends. We invest thousands of dollars and years in our education to prepare for a career we may change multiple times. How much did you invest in preparing for the most important relationship of your life? The one that sets the foundation for all you'll achieve?
The Gottman Institute's research shows that a happy marriage will bring more health, wealth, resilience, more successful children, and couples will live an average of 12 years longer than those who are not happily married. Have you considered taking some classes on how to have a happy marriage?
Maybe you skipped out on taking premarital education before you got married because you were afraid a minister would make you move apart while going through it. Maybe it was a small fear that the two of you might learn something about each other that might become a deal breaker and you didn't want to take that risk. Maybe you just couldn't afford it with all the expenses of the wedding. No worries.
Marital education can give you many practical skills that you can begin using immediately. What if you could find a program that was totally non-judgmental, didn't push any religion, and gave you practical skills supported by scientific research and, was actually kinda fun to do?
It's important for couples to learn how to prevent conflict from happening, and then how to move through it as quickly and painlessly as possible when it does happen. It's just as important to understand what to do if you hit a snag, so that you can move forward and deepen your relationship as a result. These are the skills often taught in a good premarital education program. If you missed taking it then, why not do it now? It's more important that you gain the skills before you need them, than to gain them before your wedding day.
I offer individualized marital education for couples who are just like you - wanting to assure you beat the odds and stay happily married for the rest of your lives. Want more information? PM me. Let's talk.
Rev. Ronnie was ordained in 2010 as an interfaith minister through The New Seminary, located in New York City. She is available to perform ceremonies throughout the United States, aboard ship or in other countries.